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The Adoption Triad From All Sides

It’s blog time again.  (I just can’t resist that word, blog.) 
To connect the dots, I’m the staff birth mom and I’m still fairly new to the job.  
For a bit of background, I’m a part of the adoption triad.  Not the usual, adoptive parent or adoptee, but I am a birth mom.  I say not the usual because back in my day, we didn’t share that information.  Giving a child up for adoption was something that was kept secret and swept under the carpet.  I’m grateful that it’s not that way for most today.

Love Was The Common Thread

When you are offered an opportunity to travel half-way around the world, expenses paid, to get to meet families that you had a hand in helping to build as well as to meet families waiting to grow through adopting what do you do?? Oh- and where Dutch is the official language, but you only speak English…. well if you are me, you graciously accept and then you freak out! Why- well let me explain- in my 40+ years of life I have never had a passport- never really needed one and never really desired to have one either.

A Day to Celebrate No Matter What

The birthday of your child, how do you celebrate such a special day? The day your child was born? The day you probably got to hold him for the first time? And for a birth mom, it’s the day that you knew your child would not be going home with you.

A birth mom may find herself spending that day, that week, that month, reliving their time in the hospital. They might relive every last moment spent with their child. It can be a tough day.

A Mile in Their Shoes

My experience as an adoptive mother comes in to play a lot when dealing with our clients.  I got into this whole field as a way of giving back or saying “thank you.” There are no words to express our gratitude to our daughters’ birth moms for the amazing gifts they gave us in allowing my husband and I to adopt and raise their precious daughters. 

The Birthparents Bill of Rights

  1. We have the right to dignity and respect.
  2. We have the right to know if our surrendered child is alive and well.
  3. We have the right to possess, surrender, relinquishment, consent to adopt, termination of parental rights and hospital records pertaining to ourselves and our child.
  4. We have the right and obligation to provide full knowledge to our child of their origins, ethnic and religious backgrounds, their original name and any pertinent medical and social details.

Help Us Bless Our Brave Birth Moms

A family in Utah, whose heart was touched by adoption, decided to make something special to say “Thank You” to birth moms everywhere.  They created the Brave Box.  These beautiful wooden boxes are inscribed with the word “brave.” This is how they explain their decision:

Twenty-Five Years of Changing Lives

Last week, we all gathered in the conference room with whispered excitement. Sue’s husband and grandchildren were on the far side of the room. There was a hurried announcement of,” She’s coming!” And when the door swung open we all shouted, “Surprise!”
Sue laughed, sighed, and put her notary stamp away. We had gotten her good.

Sweet Haven

A few weeks ago, Heart of Adoptions was able to place a Safe Haven baby for adoption. The laws of Safe Haven are in place to provide new parents who cannot care for their child a safe way for them to surrender her newborn. Safe Haven is just that, a safe place, literally, figuratively, and legally.

A few weeks ago a mother made use of this protection and surrendered her little one to a Safe Haven.


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