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The Yucky Side- from a Birth Mother's Perspective

Just so most know, I did keep my pregnancy a secret and didn't brag or talk much about it. Only because I knew I was placing baby girl. But there comes a point where people start to put one and one together and they just stop accepting that little cover up that you constantly use, be it close friends or family. I understand I never gave them a chance to grieve for the child I carried but honestly I felt because of my past I was tired of their judgmental thoughts and always counting on my next mess up in life to be thrown in my face.

A Letter From Our Heart To Yours

A Letter to a Birth Mom from Your Adoption Caseworker

Dear Brave Birth Mom,

            I just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you and the woman you are. I know what you are going through is so difficult, and I can’t even pretend to understand what you must be feeling right now, but please know that it will get better.

The Chaos in My Head Also Known As The Matching Process

OK- I admit the title here is a wee bit dramatic- but to be honest my life has been a wee bit chaotic the last few months and I think it’s a good fit for how I am feeling- plus it probably grabbed your attention (so let’s hope I can keep it now- because this is a long one!!)

How Social Work Saved Me

I am lucky enough to be writing this blog during National Social Worker Month – a month when we honor the time, love, commitment, and overwhelming kindness that anyone who knows a social worker is lucky enough to experience.  While I think back on all the lovely women I’ve been lucky enough to work with, my mind inevitably turns to my own path and what being an adoption social worker means to me and has done for me. 

A Birth Mom's Journey

You would think that I would have something more to report on the DNA kit. Some things just take more time than we would like. The first kit would not activate; the second kit did activate but it took weeks for it to get to the lab. 
 

The Best Way to Honor St. Valentine

February 14th—Valentine’s Day—is most often associated with love, flowers, cards and of course, those delicious heart-shaped-message candies. While we all love to indulge in the love spread around on Valentine’s Day, do we understand the history behind it? Or better yet, do we celebrate in such a way to honor the history behind it?
 

A Few Snuggles in The In-between

Being so new to the agency, I thought picking my favorite adoption story would be difficult since I have only seen a handful completed and been hands-on with even less.
 
But there was one baby that I definitely grew attached to, baby Blair. Blair was born at 24 weeks gestation. Once her birth mother signed her consent, she was in the NICU all alone with just the nurses and staff visiting her occasionally.
 

Self Care in the New Year

My New Year’s Resolution is better self-care (honestly, I started this year wanting to leave the office at 5 pm every day – with exception of a stork drop or consents).  My first day back to work from the new year was yesterday and I left the office at 5:57 pm, so yeah, that didn’t last long.  LOL!!  So I have decided to change my outlook and instead of “better self-care by leaving at 5 pm,” I am going with “Better self-care - 50 Ways to Love Yourself.”
 

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